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1, met my love other people like me, and he worked hard and can not give me the relative life, though I was six he was great, but I know what he wants, then broke up and the former boyfriend, former boyfriend is moving more. shun sister said: happiness is satisfaction. former boyfriend, where I was always satisfied, always urging him to feel that life with him 10 years may be more difficult. but there are a few female friends (not girlfriends, not very understanding of my situation. other women friends to support me) said something nasty gossip, then thought I was a fancy other people's money (I can sign so that the work of a few female friends envy) that I do so heartless , do not give me the support and blessing. The same thing happened on them, I wholeheartedly support all wish to help them, why they turn to me to be so vicious or narrow? because I suddenly become like children from poor can lead a comfortable and prosperous life, make them unbalanced and jealous? (the conditions they feel superior to it than I do) or what other reasons? the future and how they get along?
what they say, for your life and the impact that has not married, they love to say to go with them, some people's nature is understand their habits, and later on around them Zoudao Er, over time, their goal to replace more than you talk closer to their person.
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2, I am 32 unmarried, 20W Fixed assets, 10Wcash, appearance normal, the economy can still be parents house without my support; know a man, 37, divorced, carrying 8-year-old daughter, county math teacher, in the supply room, there are other small investments that did not make a profit. awareness of February, this Male honest man, the mind can still, hard working, homely, slightly inferior, derailed due to his ex-wife a divorce. now he and I feel good, emotional temperature in the (level of less than love), I feel this man and considerate, reliable, not ML, men and women feel promising to marry the needs of small signs, how to test? the other hand, I seem to be about personal conditions to find a better, probably had his eyes on is reliable. This man can marry it? on marriage stepmother do not feel the taste, loss of.
if the other did not find married men without children, and he can also be considered. but still much more to know, just know in February, in pretending to each other, it is difficult to see the other is not clear right to live with you. Also, a lot of seemingly honest man, but when they become the spouse of a woman, will not continue to go honest, the rare honest life can not be called a woman, are a question mark, so look for objects Do not just look at the status of men in front of you, to making inquiries on his evaluation of his acquaintance, especially in view of his ex-wife.
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3, there are six women in one city, graduate school, and men are the same place years of students, male mature, responsible, stable and has been in another city to buy a house. both sides feeling good. male parents did not agree, because there are two tall woman question, broke up in March, against the wishes of her parents male, must be and women together, and together, after some twists and turns. Women do not agree with their parents started, mainly because too far, but for women also agree. If their parents get married, stay away from people across half of China. M good for women, various conditions can be quite. Now men and women in the city to find work, and men living together for convenience. read Shun Shun's blog, that unmarried cohabitation is not good, but feel far away from their parents is filial piety, but can not sorry man. Male Description and women in marriage to female contradiction. sub it, against my male friends and relatives now are basically two sides recognized the family, regardless of it, I'm sorry his family. parents are now women want to settle down. contradiction. The key is never quite afraid of the future better fit. Shun Shun sister, how do? read your blog, let me on marriage and love, men are very disappointed.
after seeing my blog on marriage and love and men are disappointed with the woman, hundred percent is the woman who saw the wood for the trees, but also hundred percent have not read my blog life real awakening, because your right and wrong in one or the other, there is no compromise did not understand there is no objective. if you can he city to find work, is to marry him, big deal in the future take some twists and turns, the parents moved the whole family in front of you to take care of. But if the city can not find in his work, it is not a special trip to go in together. Do not consider will not be sorry for him, you first consider if you do not let you.
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4, I have a heavy feeling, longing for a harmonious marriage, female, 26 Aquarius. he was 31 Cancer. contacts 2 years, than 1 year after the idea of marriage. First of all ask you to sign match confidence that it? line of water bottles and Cancer combined is against it. At present we do not and a little character. eg fight, I like loud noise, and quickly make it clear Otherwise, I worry about, make it clear that I immediately good; but if less, think less, do not deal with feelings simmering did not speak. We often noisy night due to very small things, worried and I will beat him, because he I do not speak even more angry. (of course I can control the beating, and I have no violent tendencies) Is there any way to deal with this fight? that personality differences can regulate it? not likely to deal with his emotional conflicts, like the less, these 2 points can tune out Why?
he is more honest, I am afraid of the future life would be too boring, I am more active. I do not want to change a man, but I hope to guide him. life and sentiment can be trained it? difficult Why? online are about to be good match. my house intellectuals, big cities only child; his house, small and medium cities, and wealth as my home, but his parents are half-intellectual, and family harmony. his house, three sisters were married, his parents and sister only at home alone. He and I were in a big city. he is very good academic work. from the family point of view, the difference is nothing, right?
question mark so much as to have one peeling an onion peel to you. Your quarrel is the character dictates, that white is contrary to nature, communication barriers. This difference is difficult to adjust, because the character is born with something of his character and your character have formed 2,30 years, even die hard to change it. He will not deal with emotional conflicts, and to do less, which is precisely 2:00 the decision of his character, thinking about how you do not tune out of his first trial can not be under changed your violent temper, if not change, do not dream to change him. life changed some relatively good mood, because that is the material basis to determine and influence the things that you put a beggar on the palace, he will enjoy the same will be orders, and so he gradually got used to grade your life, and his mood is naturally promoted by. good match is intended to avoid the lack of understanding of each other, does not endorse, and he has very good academic work, his family and far away do not have his worry about, I do not see to you personally, what is wrong with the door improperly households. concluded that under the constellation, the constellation is also heretical doctrine of legend, gossip, learn some knowledge of right, but not necessary to control all the time because all the predictions are probability, there is no hundred percent.
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5, my sister and her husband had helped, but people have their own ideas, coupled with my sister does not distinguish right from wrong, the last not very good cause and their feelings, and now I do not like what the intersection and sisters. I want to nurture her sister home children, they are rural household, want their children to me (Chongqing) to school, what I agree still do not agree? tell the truth I would also like the kids have a good educational environment, can be really afraid to go to school in this room will get into trouble, and children have to sponsorship or something, when thankless.
Tell your sister concerns, including the problem of transient schooling tuition, even if they completely take care of themselves, and you also worry that they overwhelmed; Also, make ugly words to the header, the child is not your students, you bad bad management training , and a judge who count? told them that if a sister, the children are willing to cut, then you can reluctance to receive her children, but we all have to understand in advance that, once the non-tongue, you are not responsible for the aftermath, her parents responsibilities transferred to you, you will contribute to please, and if there may be less than a good discussion, and that who would be willing to contribute?
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6, junior high school students met at the same table together, expression like me, middle school had a crush on me when, after I spend some feel more care about him, because he points along a five-year girlfriend, and give him too much harm, he said is true from the heart can not accept the other a relationship, I would like to not very good. He rarely mention their business, others like this, what thoughts are not very willing to bring trouble, but he could not completely put me down, he came back to Beijing did not tell me that because I love him so deep, he could not really accept me, I can not see every day on my exercise bike on the way back I sneak a look, I can confirm this. he went to Beijing, we did not contact, I think it really contact him and want to forget him, but he recently came to pick me exercise every night to go home during the day and hit a couple of phone calls, I got home he went. Every time he walked together, I was so reluctant to him, but not performance out, very painful, Shun, you say this love I give up?
deliberately Mensao most men can not stand, do not play not so infatuated with infatuation, and one would say forget the ex-girlfriend, one will say could not bear hurt you, would not close, alienation still refused, he really will be fishing, ah, you are really willing to bite ah. to subdue him, only completely ignore him and see if he does not pretend to a profound contradiction installed?
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7, I'm 29, female master, recently introduced the students to meet a man, has been hit on the q-line chat, jokes, text messages and phone never felt okay. He used to stay up late, about the first meeting 11 pm in the McDonald's drink cups of water, left the chat, send me her house, then there is no text messages and phone, qq occasionally in conversation. I think it was gone. but the second hit Saturday night qq that he invited me out, then have 12 points more, it was still under the rain, I am going to rain refused, but he insisted, and I feel he can to keep the appointment. This time he quickly took my hand, I did not refuse, he coaxed me to say that after a walk to the hotel, said he went home to sleep, I strongly disagree. Although non-place, but the wrong time, I do not want to wrong the second time, at most only accept hand and kissing, Besides, I saw the second time, decided to go home. qq only contact later, will leave more small concern. He asked me the third weekend in mountain climbing, and I refused Ethernet sun, a tired and do not want to go to the previous day, and secondly, I think carrying, then later agreed to go before that is not right, can not he wanted me to go out. In short, he is not because there is no text messages and phone about to meet, only qq, do not know whether he was affectionate to me, or just want to get my body. I'm confused, I do not know whether to give up, he was student buddies, classmates said he was a good character, but I'm afraid people will become.
your classmates to his character but do not understand his style. that His friends generally okay, the woman is not respected. He is a one-night stand when you object, or Q off will not always talk. away from him, this man is low grade, you do not need to give students face went to visit him about.
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8, female 34, married 5 years, 4 years old son, her husband of 10 years older than me, income of 5.0 million / year, others saw a good husband, practical work hard will live temper good. I am in pain. He or sex. after that I was almost no how ML. I am a corporate middle management, 30-100 million in annual income, good-looking, pleasant personality, the pursuit by many. I love my husband last September never thought of before the derailment, even almost asexual. last September found him and the unit of a female affair, that after I wailed, I was in charge he said he was too strict, bad temper, can not communicate with me. I I know this is wrong, because I have been many men before him crazy love, very confident, and he gave me the cold I always suspected he was having an affair, always check him, and led to his resentment. He said the woman, gentle, and He especially good, and he has a common language, he and she are just friends. But the information I have ever seen a woman, the woman loved him to distraction. LG asked me that never thought of divorce. Try to forgive him, but can not be relieved. I will no longer caring for her husband.
a partner during the (ego-year-old unmarried, career success) annual income of 30-50 million in mad pursuit of me, have ML, co-produced a harmonious feeling of both sides, children like his, he has repeatedly begged me to marry him. had made arrangements for his parents to see me (lie to his parents that I have been divorced, but before I do not know his parents to see me), parents of my son well, for I am satisfied. and I get along with nearly a year, very much in love. Over the past year and a good friend her husband is also in frequent contact, contact SMS every day until the woman left her husband flat for some reason, her husband looks like back home (he knows a diamond bachelor asked me to marry), Tell me if the divorce, he gave me a fortune, and then he become a monk. Fortunately for me and the children, asked his affectionate me, and I refused. I want a divorce you?
you the income you write three is to look at the income I were to judge you on and who the You, in principle, people should be together in love, but also you and your man does not come from love and hating it? you back to loving this man a few years?
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9, I Because hepatitis had low self-esteem, as if still a little dirty psychological, do not like people are on the bed. At that time very ignorant, and do not fall in love, got married in March no. I do not like her, no feelings, but children With the woman ugly, I look handsome. mainly the mother has advised me that was pretty good I got married. Finally, I got married, I find it very unfortunate. my wife will not have sex. I am now blame my mother, angry with the woman's love. You say I do this to you, but I can not control.
your mother was right, it was pretty good and you're married, you want to Shane. too ugly people, no never too loud noise on the bed? you are handsome, but you are sick, beautiful woman would love to marry you? You do not have to make, as a result of your wife do not you, that time you can surf the Internet a one-night stand.
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10, I'm 35, married nearly a decade for his work to travel, I am one person and another to work with children. our economy apart, he does not give living expenses, tuition fees only to the children, intersection of electricity gas and sometimes water, but will pay a one arguing with me, I am fully responsible for the recent forced altogether. I do not want to fight because to compromise. everyday life he occasionally buy a la carte and fruits, with children out to play or buy thing. I just want to clean years of torment, I always said to myself when no husband to it, not her husband are on their own is not it? even if it is still not clean. recently kicked up, two months have been the Cold War. Each second argument with, he would tell me separation, one person a room to sleep, but also will deliberately go out of that room he slept locked. extramarital affair he did not feel, I may have been too lazy to face, it could be his special care I can not find it. Anyway, always separated after argument with one or two months, he never approached me. this is his emotional and physical evidence of derailment? how can I do? married for ten years, suffering for a decade, I have become a person, even spoke with enthusiasm gone, turn inward and stiff, because the long-term mental torture, sleep very well, have checked out the cerebral artery spasm, arrhythmia, bradycardia. I so that strive to live in quiet desperation, but I have to go you can support?
you also asked for support does not go by his anger a disease, he does not pay child support does not pay for living expenses, you may be able, Since so may be able to, it would continue to tolerate it, is a bad bear out of a top Cerebral hemiplegia gradually getting coronary heart disease, anyway, sooner or later there is a dead man, what are you afraid of it. there just said he did not feel an affair, here and then asked him not take the initiative of reconciliation is not derailed prove the contradiction you need more than your question, was he tortured the joint, then support the day to day it counted. to encourage you, I think you can support 70 later, do not worry, there are 35 years of it, Man Manao it.
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11, I am a student, one the opposite sex, outsider, we are a very good relationship, and even some ambiguous. In fact, I heart him is preparedness. because he always felt relief when the economy stops me. to one of his less than ten dollars pen broke, he half-jokingly asked me also; usually go out to eat, the meal he asked me , the next meal he will definitely want me to please; ago he borrowed my money, the number is not small, but after he mentioned do not mention, and I mention he was also me; buy something to eat, he always went with enough money, let me help him pad, the number of not more generally, five to six blocks of ten, and I find him to be embarrassed. but deep down I especially bad mood! Did he think I am stupid, want to take advantage of me Why ? I do not really like him, did not move off of his heart, to him as a friend to be. He told me the same. but usually what phone text messages and contact him more, is not he, for this reason that I have not seen the man, willing to pay for his silence? In fact, I am good, but like my boys are not better than he did, conditions and better! I continue to associate with him down it? I do not want to break off with him, after all, more than friends way, no need friends as strangers ah.
since failing to appreciate his narrow-minded, the less travel Yeah, why still have to have so many phone messages to meet it. friend as a stranger is a pity, but more unfortunately you let outsiders misunderstand the relationship between you and the Zhesi. even just friends, but also worthwhile and from so close, you do and your friends are, who spends all together? about a person's mettle, you maintain a proper distance, do not offend not break off, do not close no nearer, this is the principle of doing things, how can I trouble while he was sick and tired of death, while still force themselves coming and going with him? own with no principles, depends on who?
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12, there is a problem bothering me for many years, I even want the secret to the grave, and can increase with age, I'm getting no relief. I hope you help me down! I was very young to see to the mother and the other men do it in front of my face, of course, they thought I was asleep. This scene can not forget how I forget all that now to see her, she did not respect.'ve even seen mothers and Several other men flirting with for many years. despise her father is not very likely to make money now, now I think, is not the mother did not divorce for me. parents are now feeling very well, know that mutual interest, accompanied by the old. I will make every effort to care for them. I'm from the heart of a good father, the mother is only out of obligation, occasionally angry, I know where my heart lies in her disorder? this thing except me and mothers and those parties, I never thought anyone say that other people may not know, how can I treat the mother, so that they can become open-minded it?
If you love your mother and her problems character issues separately, you will not hate her. your mother was young she can not get from your father wanted only good on the other men. Later the needs of your mother down to basically no age, She is indeed a pity for the rest of your life you only after thoroughly put down her demand, relieved in the marriage, and harmony back up your father, then if you still hate her, you're not wiser. because you are either male or female You will betray your partner may be, but your condition than your mother, and will not sex with a child lying beside the time. Chinese people of poor housing problems of small economies in a step by step solution, which gives after derailment provide greater cheap, so you Qiaobu Shang your mother, it is possible in the future you have to be this tortured heart Qiaobu Shang: Because you will understand that you and mother are the same person has a desire to ease the instinct .
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13,38 F, married 10 years, institutions, my colleagues and more women. husband was laid off work, hard working, but less communication. Last year, a man met online, a large female 6 years old, city, and occasionally to meet more women take the initiative, said he would not divorce men and women will, too. After had a relationship, then later refused were female. men over women is not a gift. one year after the man told the woman not to contact, although the sad woman But the firm back. say people live is live for themselves, but to be happy, female heart lonely, lonely, how to adjust?
always believed that a smooth, busy people are lonely and alone did not work, you are still living too comfort, their own men did not give you Tian Du, looking for other men to the point of manufacture to give you a mind. Let yourself busy, made the hobby business, busy feet do not point in time, effort Mensao how can you even harder Kung Fu is also self-pity after a derailment.
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14, is your blog makes me out of the dark days before. But I think I will not fall in love, I used to get along any one time, are The purpose of holding the marriage, as long as the other party is willing, I never mentioned breaking up, probably because I'm older now! I want to ask: What is meant by the right? If economic conditions in general, good for me, usually also more common topic, such a right? to find her husband know what to look for yourself? brackets, please forgive me mentally, but also used to ask this question, complete brackets.
appropriate basic condition that you like him, he like you. other conditions there in my old article, summed up his time to find it slowly.
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15, derailed, is my right time, in the passion and attraction faded after I began to anxiety and guilt, could also go, and more often I feel completely lost myself, I do not know how to grasp and handle.
how that sentence say? steal steal vain as steal, steal enough rest, and no one to stop you, in short, this is what you weigh, as long as something can accept the consequences after the defeat, you steal do not steal, do not regret regret, not a problem. < br> hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
16, cousin, brother in law 35 42, not high culture, their daughter did very well in the examination this year may go to focus on high school, at least in key areas. cousin, both parents have died in recent years, their marriage have been arguing, her husband had an affair before, and soon admitted the mistake back. Now the cousin for a man running away from home, and going to 20 or so back. her husband was still clinging to wait for her to come back, he is willing to give the man money. Shun sister, how to do this? cousin to call you back?
not live with them on getting there is a variety of reasons, and is likely to be outsiders can not see the problem. Since the matter sorted out your cousin people away, that is totally not want this marriage, and her own choices and decisions will be, all you care about her so-called people, it's best to give her hugs and less to her proposal.
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17, I fast Chousi two days, I and my husband want to start again, he said I could get rid of drugs for as long as my pillars, with my supervision, he quit. He is playing the kind of pain needles, listening to people that would quit. tell the truth deep feelings of my husband, because I am a single parent family, the mother was gone he was my family, and he did not have to say to me, but the total playing side door. I get out from the shadow of divorce after know my boyfriend is also very good, very happy with him, he was willing. I carried her boyfriend and her ex-husband met a few faces, I do not know exactly why the view, is met each other cry, her boyfriend knew immediately Let me break contact with him, arguing why I gave him hope. ex no source of income, sometimes I give him money is to look at his poor. recent ex-husband to be and good, and said let me send him to rehab, not to be her boyfriend. My ex-husband have children, how to do.
you really have to quit her ex-husband to the heart, I really have to turn over a new heart, he can come see you ah drug, as it can be able to express his determination to save you, right? savior not just one person can do, you indecisive wavering, the consequences can only be the first to be abandoned now her boyfriend, then her ex-husband dragged into total despair.
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18, I'm 29, and current boyfriend to get along in July, now, he still got the idea to me, are very happy together, but I felt a knot that he had married my girlfriend of a friend, both of whom were very close, and he was not with the ex-girlfriend completely break up occasionally to go to bed. because we know that, so I did not mind him, and later because of loneliness, no other people around, use him as a spare tire, put too much thought, but also has to do with his sexual partners to remind ourselves like, I think off all the middle a few times because he tried to save but fell through. I was with him when he was still in touch with ex-girlfriend and I are unhappy face, and now he no longer contact the basic ex-girlfriend. Since I have been around No one else, the development has actually had feelings for him, and he calls every day, I feel bad that he will comfort persuasion, feel he is very attached to me, I have some because of age do not want to marry the idea of small, he also said to have a future, but care about those things when he first met him, and he is likely to feel lonely and fresh fishes because I have a current performance, I do not know what the feelings of attitude with him?
who have In the past, he did not before marriage, there are several ex-girlfriend is normal, so put down his past in order to have you and his future, do not he put down, but you would not put down. Of course, this man does not belong to specific people, specific people or at least not a good side and a former girlfriend while still married to your girlfriend ambiguous. you have to understand is this: Even if he did not handle to be until you master, even if he loves You are true, it does not mean he will always keep loving you. love is too easy a depreciation, and low-end family car, like a few years to complete depreciation into scrap metal, and you want a person eternal love, that only the two of you had frozen.
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19, marriage is important to feel important or conditions? married to women, heterosexual sexual relations about how long a man will not be looked down upon? how to really get rid of a failed marriage in the past shadow, to trust and accept the opposite sex again? good man is like a simple woman, or like shenanigans have the means to their playing around, make them restless woman? feel like not know how to love, do not know how to sporadic charm, put it down to the opposite sex, please Shun Shun pointing or two.
remarriage, the primary consideration is whether this person and I got along well, because the previous marriage has been, and look down and fall apart Tanbu Lai, Remarriage must find he can fancy. Of course conditions are not too bad, or you still have the second marriage did not last long. because whether the second marriage is first marriage, can not avoid the daily necessities of the problem, the other economic bad, will soon you against him completely destroyed. out of the shadow of a failed marriage, only one way: down in the past to the future, move forward and not dwell not Zamo past. can not put a man on your relentless as the whole world man's guilt, or you will never be happy again, the ability to obtain. Men like good simple woman, of course, this is the same as a virgin, and men like the psychological, but men often are seemingly simple but in fact is neither good nor pure good woman charm, this only shows a man's emotional intelligence is very low, so women who do not hate women amusing man, you will not coax is your problem, that you do not know the value of their own do not know what a man. so there you like a man, you also will find a way to lure each other attachment you; why you envy those Bamianlaifeng the exquisite woman, Gein you down, have not met the man you want to seduce. waiting for you Once the flat of the mentality of a man as one wants or is no longer bitter, a fate will be arranged for you to seduce your man on, when you are in his eyes is the angel in the eyes of you that other frustrated women amusing man is also a leader.
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20, I had to buy a house relative to time by 2,000 yuan, a year later I moved into a new house, to be returned to two thousand, but the relatives do not resolutely and said to me be buy a new home gift, I will give up. Now high school kids to bring his family twenty thousand yuan off each week, I think I should give them a little money, how much should I give really good (my family is not very good economy, but also has room credit), I was a chance to put the 2,000 yuan, or what?
add 1,2000 I sent for the past, the table of the mind, but also has a human. you had to think about when you buy a house, people may also have not told you the economic pressure, so now even if you have to repay the mortgage, but look at the people who support you, you get the money back too far under the others.
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